Are you recently engaged or plan to be in the future?
Right after your engagement a few thoughts will immediately come to mind…
- When will we decide to get married?
- Where will the perfect location be?
- How soon is too soon to go shopping for a dress?
- Who do we want in our wedding party?
- How many people are we going to invite?
- What will our color theme be for the wedding?
- What do you think: a band or a DJ?
- Do we need a videographer?
- Where will we travel on our honeymoon?
Now, these are all valid and important questions. Unless you are going to City Hall to get married — which is all fine and dandy if that is what you desire — there is no way of getting around all of the wedding planning. You will spend months ironing out every little detail up until the very last moment before you wed.
Don’t Plan a “Budget Honeymoon”
Something that you should think about as you are planning is your budget. Most of us have a magic number that we cannot go over. Typically, couples throw a large amount of their money at their wedding and end up with a magical day that surpasses all of their wants and wishes.
What I want to discuss today is the importance of focusing on that last question above, “Where will we travel on our honeymoon?” Trust me when I tell you that you are missing out if you try to go on a “budget honeymoon,” traveling to a place that is… nice… but, nothing really special to you and your spouse. You should skip the overly-expensive wedding and splurge on your honeymoon.
Our Dream Honeymoon
Before my husband and I met, he already decided where he wanted to take the woman he was going to marry after they wed. Within the first month we met, Bobby told me that his ultimate dream vacation was to go to the Maldives.
My first thought…”Never heard of that place. What makes it so special?”
A little over six years later—after an engagement and marriage—we ventured off to the Maldives together for two weeks in August 2016.
It was a truly magical dream vacation that we will never regret taking.
Traveling to the Maldives is neither easy nor cheap, but it was a trip that was special to my husband and I. We may never travel business or first class again on Emirates. Bobby and I might not be fortunate enough to stay in an over-water bungalow in the years to come. Also, traveling that far with having a family one day might be next to impossible.
Have a “Budget Wedding” Instead
So, split your budget wisely. Plan that magical wedding of your dreams, but sacrifice a little in the process. Save some of the money you were going to spend on that couture gown, cut down your guest list, and have your wedding on a Thursday. Take the trip of your dreams and splurge on your honeymoon or you will most likely regret it.
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Not yet convinced? Take a look at some more reasons why you should slash your wedding budget and splurge on your honeymoon.
Why You Should Spend Less on Your Wedding & Splurge on Your Honeymoon
It forces you to have a more intimate wedding
When you have a seriously strict budget for your wedding, you don’t just invite everyone you have ever met throughout your life. Sometimes, I feel like that is what people do and… the wedding ends up losing the feeling of intimacy.
A wedding is meant to be a celebration of your marriage with the most special people in your life. It isn’t all about the attention from people you might not even speak to again in the next five years. So, cut your guest list, save $10,000, and splurge on your honeymoon instead.
You get more bang for your buck
Take a moment to break down your budget. A wedding is typically six hours between the ceremony and reception. If you spend $30,000 on a six hour wedding, your wedding day is costing you $5,000 an hour. That’s about $83 a minute.
A honeymoon is usually about 1-2 weeks long. Let’s say you go away for two weeks on your DREAM honeymoon and it costs $15,000 ($8,000 more than your original plan for a “budget honeymoon”). That is only about $1,071 a day, $45 an hour, and a little over $1 a minute. $5,000/hr versus $45/hr… that speaks V O L U M E S.
The honeymoon is your wedding celebration as a couple
Yes, your wedding is a very important part of your marriage. Let me be honest, my husband and I are still talking about how we felt like our wedding was perfect. We were surrounded by an enormous amount of genuine love and everything magically fell into place.
But, as fun as it was, the true connection and romance as newlyweds was during our honeymoon. For two weeks, it was like we were disconnected from the world. We were in paradise and the world stopped for a while. It was about Bobby and I and no one else while we were halfway across the world.
You will make more memories during your honeymoon
Just like I broke down when discussing the cost per hour with a wedding versus a honeymoon, you get more time. You can still invite your close friends and family, have great music, good food, a beautiful dress, and stay within your budget—no matter how low you plan to keep it at.
Your honeymoon is an opportunity to strengthen your marriage. This is the time you both have alone as newlyweds. The photos I have of my wedding are exceptional. I was blown away. But, the memories behind the pictures from my honeymoon could bring me to tears… thousands of happy ones. Invest in making those memories and splurge on your honeymoon.
You get what you pay for when you travel
If you haven’t been through the experience yet, wait for your wedding planning to begin. It is a lot and it tests many close relationships in your life. Why is that? Money, time, and decisions are involved. Everyone has a say and the tension tends to rise quickly and diffuse slowly.
Planning a honeymoon really isn’t that stressful. You need to figure out: how to get to your destination, where you will stay, and what you will do. No matter what anyone tells you, you get what you pay for when it comes to traveling. So, saving on a honeymoon means taking a hit when it comes to comfort and a stress-free experience. Instead, splurge on your honeymoon and enjoy those few weeks you have together in paradise.
You will make excuses in the future
The truth is, the responsibilities will continue to pile as life goes on after your wedding. You might get a dog, start a family, have to pay a mortgage, have to move, etc. Whatever the case may be, getting married is a fantastic excuse to take a ridiculous vacation.
People usually make excuses to not make their biggest dreams a reality. Many dreams people have involve extensive traveling and seeing parts of their world they can only see on a computer screen. So, why not make the excuse to make that dream COME TRUE now and splurge on your honeymoon?
Experiences & adventures will strengthen your bond
The only real adventure you have during your wedding is trying to side-step the land mines as you go through the planning process. Your wedding experience will be incredible. But, that all happens with the involvement of you and your spouse, along with about a dozen other people chiming in to help you along the way.
But, your honeymoon is just about you two. A time to go places you have only dreamed about and possibly take adventures each day within a new culture. You will taste new cuisine, view foreign wildlife, and explore with little-to-no worries about life back at home where are the responsibilities were left behind. All of this done alone with each other as a couple.
& finally splurge on your honeymoon just because….
Do you think it is worth it to save money on a wedding and splurge on a honeymoon instead?
Let me know in the comments below!